An unexpected pregnancy can be one of the many reasons why life gets complicated. Perhaps this is not the right time for you to start a family. Or, maybe it’s the wrong guy, or you are struggling to make ends meet financially. Regardless of where you are right now, you still have a decision to make. Whatever you choose won’t be easy, but that is why Care Net Pregnancy Center of Kittitas County is here to help you through this process.
If this pregnancy was not planned and you truly do not feel like you are ready for parenthood, you may be torn between having an abortion and making an adoption plan for your child. Take the time you need to explore your options in a place that does not profit from your decision. Make an appointment today for a free consultation.
You are not alone
Each year, in the United States, over 115,000 children are adopted, and over 5 million people have been adopted. Adoption can be a gift, but it is not without its challenges. One adoptive mother said: “Adoption is happy. Adoption is beautiful. But it’s not only happy and beautiful. Revealing and remembering and embracing the full sad-happy picture of adoption isn’t betraying adoption; it’s simply calling adoption what it is. I grieve adoption, and I celebrate adoption. And I do it all at once.”
Adoption is not for everyone, which is why we encourage all our patients to research all their options and make a pros and cons list.
Pros of Choosing Adoption:
- You can choose to use an agency or have a private adoption through an attorney.
- You choose the home and parents for your child.
- You are in control of the entire process including hospital time, birth plan, and who is present.
- You choose how much contact you wish to have with your child through open, closed, or semi-open adoption.
- You can continue achieving your personal goals, pursue your education, or make career advancements.
- You will have financial support available throughout your pregnancy and beyond.
- You will be making one of the most selfless choices you can ever make in life.
Cons of Choosing Adoption:
- You may struggle with complicated emotions, including joy, grief, regret, and relief.
- You may wrestle with letting go of how you want to raise your child. You will always be their mother (or father), just not in the traditional way.
- You will experience childbirth without having a baby to take home with you.
- You may experience temporary or even lasting regret. Counseling is imperative to help you sort through your emotions.
- Your legal parental rights cannot be restored.
If you are considering adoption, research and choose your child’s future parents carefully and express your desires for the life you envision for your child. When you come to Care Net Pregnancy Center of Kittitas County, we honor your choice and will help support you the best we can. This is your life and your decision.